One of the greatest complaints about is, from significant others, schools, courts, and friends, is our ability to either cancel our plans or not show at all. We can orchestrate these monumental events, and at the very last minute cancel them. This does not mean we will not change our mind again, as many times … Continue reading Sure, I’d love to go!, Of course I am Going to Cancel On You!
Category: Relationship Struggles
My ability to stay in the present, through even the most uncomfortable moments, has allowed the system to gain confidence in me. They are no longer required to respond to every spike in my adrenaline. They do not feel the need to manage my life, as they are comfortable, validated, and safe within me; Mostly.
Borderline Personality Disorder, and Dissociative Identity Disorder. How the over dramatification and lack of understanding of both coping skills has not only served to drive people to dark places, but also go to furthering the trauma, even compounding it in some cases.
We know, you think that the term Optimistic Depression is actually inaccurate on face; You may be right in a rationale world, here in the Outer Limits fo consciousness and despair, the rules of reason are scrapped for the programmed fight or fight response.
So many times when we are processing, we wander aimlessly it seems through the depths of our mind. Many times we need to recall later, and as our crazy, fractured existence demands, we forget. Rarely do we have toe foresight to take notes of our adventures inward, looking outward. Making, or trying too, sense of … Continue reading Empowering Choice Without Fear
There has been a delay since our last posting. Our lives have become somewhat more manageable in certain ways. We have made choices in our lives that are scary, things we would have never done before. We have ventured into new space as things would seem, or have we? Are we just merely following our … Continue reading Triggering a Little, And How To Recover
So, I challenge my readers, to explain to us why living in this fashion, is better than taking the chance that all will come to an end.
For the longest time, we have looked for things in others, we were locking from our childhood. This was not a conscious search, but like many of us, we were "looking for love in all the wrong places! " I know, but Johnny Lee could not have said it better, if he himself were a … Continue reading Relationships With Trauma Survivors
Having alters, can be more challenging than the worst spouse or room mate. They have their own opinions, and once awareness is attained, they also know they have very little accountability for their actions. For me, the worst part is not being able to leave the room when I need to. You can never quiet … Continue reading Regulating a Bully Alter
We are a great fan of existentialism and the freedoms that accompany living authentic. However this is a double edged sword, as responsibility for our choices is never without pain. Pain as it seems is the knife that forms the clay of humanity. We are very much defined through our own suffering, which in many … Continue reading Duty or Happiness?
Perhaps the most difficult thing for us, and we believe many others like us; is the ability to express our desires. A most basic human need and function. Without expressing our desires, we rarely are able to satisfy our existentiality. One of the fundamentals of being human, is our individuality. Our desires are not just whims, to be catered … Continue reading Fear of Expressing Needs
For those of you just tuning in, we are a system of thirteen alters, living inside a single body. We are like a bunch of roommates, sharing a studio flat, in Tokyo. The interpersonal exploits are as many as we are, multiplied exponentially. This too goes for our love lives. Welcome to the … Continue reading Multiple Personalities and Polyamory. Finding Happiness Without Guilt, Shame or Judgement.
Six Daughters, Two Wives, fourteen personalities, in one body, and only one house. Yes, you read correctly. This post is going to address our very complicated, and very real situation we are currently living. This is the reality of romance and marriage in DID. This is the living hell/heaven/whatever, that we created, and many times … Continue reading Get your popcorn and favorite substance, and hang on…….. D.I.D. Romance….
Recently, while indulging in not so intellectual pursuits, our minds seem to wander and realize something so basic, yet so foreign to us. As human beings, and mammals, or just about any living creature, we all have common traits and needs. The need for sustenance, the need to procreate, the need to sleep, and other … Continue reading Fearing What We Need The Most
If there is one struggle that we can all remember through the history of our life, it is the one for feeling close to anything. We have felt closer to places, and animals than we ever have top people. I am sure that is because of our history with humans. The feeling of being close, … Continue reading Group Solitary Confinement. The struggle for closeness.
If you are a reader then thank you!, if this be your first read; Hold on and throw your sense of normal out the window. Much has been made in our household as of late, about the idea of cheating on your spouse. I must agree that when one takes an oath, vow, or … Continue reading Our Wife and Her Husbands