Hate this confusion!!!!

So. As you all know I am enroute to West Virginia to tend to Genes affairs. Here’s the thing. My cousins want ,Ed to just let him be at PEACE!! They want me to respect his wishes!!!! WTF? Then, when she tells me she can’t figure out what I did that was so wrong????I told her that I guess getting passed around lie, the family blow up doll for years and then getting beat every time we said anything was OK? What about my wishes then? Does being dead wash away the evil he did to us?!! I a, so passed. We are all pissed. Ugh!!!!!